She paused, and then she said, “Maybe I’ve been focusing in the wrong direction. Rather than trying to change my congregation, maybe if I could learn to respond differently to anxiety, some things would change.” Meredith’s ability to name an anxious response in her work life and tie it to a part of her first formation was a giant step forward. She had not yet learned to disrupt that pattern, but now that she could see it, she had access to something new. We will say more about the process of unlearning